ayres_4 (ayres_4) wrote in ontd_football,

The Female Ref in Argentine Football

We were talking about female refs the other day, and I mentioned Salomé Di Iorio, argentine football's female referee. Just today I was reading Olé and found and interview with her, so I thought I'd share.

“They've thrown coffee, rolls of paper and sneakers at me...”

 Image and video hosting by TinyPic 

Referee Salomé Di Iorio talks about her eventful job trying to administer justice in a thoroughly masculine field. "A woman's mistake is noticed twice as much. A man can be wrong because he's human, but a woman can't be wrong, because she's a woman". Besides, she's a lawyer and works at a law firm. 

- A referee and a lawyer. How do you handle both jobs?
- It's complicated. Thankfully, I have my bosses' support at the law firm. I've had to miss some hearings to be at an international tournament and I've had to skip work for a long period of time.

-What's the hardest part of both jobs?
-Refereeing isn't that hard, because if you're equipped, you're ok physically and you're qualified, things work out just fine. On a trial, though, you never know what can happen. I sweat more in hearings than in the field.

-It looks like you like being in charge of the justice.
- Yes, ha. At the same time, the refereeing course was something casual. Since they've always disqualified my comments on matches because I was a woman, I wanted to learn the rules properly, but I never thought I'd end up working.

-Have you earned their respect now?
-Yes. Now, everytime there's a controversial call, my friends and family ask me about it. It was very hard, though. Ten years ago, it was unfathomable to have a woman as a ref, but if you show you're qualified, you'll be respected. At the same time, if you make a mistake, it will be remarked twice as much. A man may have missed it, because he's human, but a woman can't have missed it, because she's a woman.

Image and video hosting by TinyPic

- Typical insult? 
- Well, "go do the dishes" is never missing. But I don't mind verbal violence as much as physical violence.

-Have they thrown things at you?
- Yes, and not only that, they spit at you as well. At some stadiums I've been spit on from the first to the last minute of the match, I've been thrown coffee, rolls of paper... They threw a sneaker at me once and then they asked me to give it back to them!

-I imagene you didn't give it back...
-No, of course I didn't. It was my revenge, ha.

-Have you ever played football?
-Yes, in a team of boys, because there was no female football in Quilmes.

-All boys?
- Yes, but since they hit me a lot, I ended up quitting. I was a midfielder and I'd go for a ball and I'd end up injured, and the other kid was ok. I ended up with bruises all over and I'd wear my little dress anyways, with my marked legs and all, ha.

Image and video hosting by TinyPic

- How do you manage to keep your femininity in this field?
- Keeping my femininity made it harder for me to be accepted.

-You drive them crazy...
- I can't complain in that aspect. Some of them still say piropos to me (translation: flirtatious comment. lol. it's basically the kind of thing guys tell you on the street)

- What do they complement you on?
- My eyes. Sometimes they're really funny, in el Ascenso (second division league and below) they're very witty.

-What happens if you end up smiling at them?
-You can't smile, or they won't stop. But it's hard not to laugh.

-And do players compliment you?
-Once in a while one will say "you've got nice eyes", but it's not the usual.

- Do you think that's fine or do you see it as disrespectful?
- Sometimes players will come over to me after a match and they don't have the courage to give me a kiss. They ask : "Can I kiss you?" I always clarify that yes, they can kiss me... on the cheek, ha. And yes, sometimes they end up saying something to me there, but I don't take it the wrong way if they're respectful.   (players in Argentina always kiss the male refs on the cheek, just to clarify this point so it doesn't sound that bad, lol)

- Were there ever rumours that you were dating a footballer?
- Yes, always. Thank God I've been with the same person for 15 years, so all those comments are ridiculous.

-Is it just another occupational hazard?

- I'm used to those comments. I started working when I was 16. You have no idea what I've been through! Sometimes I've wanted to quit. Sometimes footballers themselves will make up a story because they were mad at you for a decision you made on the field.

- Is your husband jealous?

-He stays away from everything involving refereeing.

- Do you smarten up before matches?
-Yes, I wear make up, I fix my hair. I'm into details.

-You wear make up to referee as well?

-Yes. I even wear make up to go to the grocery store.

- Have you been approached to do tv shows?

- Yes, but I've said no. I've always been known for being serious. If I do tv, I won't be able to go out on the field again. I respect those who do it, but I won't

I've been to matches where she was working as an assitant ref, and she's absolutely right. She disallowed a goal in my reserve team's match (yes, I go earlier to see the babies play, whatever) and it caused an uproar in the stands. I'm pretty sure it wouldn't have happened with a guy. Another time, she just walked by and the asshole sitting next to me stood up and clapped while saying "Nicely done, judge, nicely done" even though the only thing she'd done was stand there and be hot. That asshole.
Tags: league: primera división argentina, soul sistas, source de journalistic integrity
  • Post a new comment


    Comments allowed for members only

    Anonymous comments are disabled in this journal

    default userpic

    Your reply will be screened

    Your IP address will be recorded 

← Ctrl ← Alt
Ctrl → Alt →
← Ctrl ← Alt
Ctrl → Alt →